With time, and a lot of therapy and a healthy dose of self help books (don't hate: if it helps, it helps) you finally can come to terms and realize that maybe that idea you had ingrained in your head is not the absolute truth, the be all end all; and everything just vanish and there comes a moment when you just think about it not with pain or desperation or whatever you used to feel but just as something that happened and faded away. A blissful moment, lemme tell you.